Rachel Michelle Hanson

Ways of Leaving

​The story goes like this: a Utah writer came home early and found a man in bed with his wife. In a fit of rage, the writer took the man to the Salt Lake City Avenues cemetery and forced him to sit on the frozen ground of January. And while he sat there trembling with cold, the writer stood above him, smoked an entire pack of cigarettes, and flicked each still smoking butt at the stunned lover. Then he just walked away. I used to live in the Avenues and have walked through that cemetery many times myself; it’s a bit of a climb underneath that unmistakable western sky, pierced by tips of pines and the occasional Box-elder oak tree. I’ve also read that writer’s stories. The one about the two women who nicked their shared lover’s Achilles tendon so he couldn’t walk away from them, couldn’t leave them, has stayed with me over the years. Probably because I wonder about tactics against leaving, the ways we leave, the ways we lose.

I was once with a man who lived just below that Avenues cemetery. One night he guided me through the headstones. It had been cold and we climbed to the top of the cemetery and sat on a concrete bench. I’d pressed close for the heat of his body while we looked across the Salt Lake Valley, city lights for miles and just beyond them, the Wasatch Mountains, beautiful, blue, and snow-tipped. “This is why I brought you up here, kind of a nice view—wanted you to see it,” he said. I remember briefly thinking it was funny that he thought the view was unknown to me, that this place, my home, was new to me. Then he had nudged my shoulder and I looked at him. He was pointing, not to the valley or the mountains, but at the ground, at a tombstone, across which read “Hanson” in bold letters.

In One Love Affair, Jenny Boully writes a list of things that ripen to die, “plums, flesh, girl flesh, love affairs…” I sometimes think of the way my relationships have ended—how by the end there must have been moments when we looked at one another and saw rot. It’s not the most painful thing, but it stings a little still. Though really it’s the memories triggered by a touch or sighting, usually brief and seemingly unrelated to my past, that wrench my insides and make me recall things I’d rather forget. Like when my little brother asked me to teach him to read and I didn’t. Or when a friend died in an accident and all I could think of was the last time I saw him—how I’d refused to hug and make-up after a stupid fight. Or the way I tried to save an animal—stayed up all night outside on my parents’ porch holding the puppy. I tried to get her to take food and water, and held her close. When I look back at my child self sitting in the humid dark of Tennessee holding that small thing in my own small hands, I see just how alone the two of us were that night, and still I can’t help but think how I should have done more to save her.

When I was four years old, Annie, the mother who lived in the house behind mine, reached over the chain-link fence that separated her back yard from ours, and gave me an apple. She told me to stop drinking the pickle juice I’d taken from my parents’ refrigerator because it was bad for me. I obeyed though I told her I didn’t like apple peels and she told me to eat it anyway. Annie was married to a preacher who beat their children with his belt, with his hand, with the slight branches he’d rip from youthful trees in his backyard. I’d see him beat his son, heard the yells of a child reach past his yard and into ours. As a kid I hadn’t wondered where Annie was when the beating went on, but now I do. I think a lot of bad must have been happening in that house, and I suppose that’s obvious because one day Annie put herself in her garage, closed the door, started the car, and sat breathing in what she must have thought of as merciful fumes. Only part of her died though, so in the end there had been no mercy and her death turned out to be slow. The fumes had damaged her brain, but her husband found her before